… On Being Bitchy
I had to do a quick hostee update, so I decided to do a quick post.
Normally, I don’t curse because I find it useless 99% of the time. I’m not a very religious person, nor am I a very conservative person, but I do have certain beliefs, and although I believe that using a curse word in every sentence is unnecessary, I do occasionally use one for emphasis.
The word bitch is one word that I actually love to use. Probably because I’ve been called one many times. What’s funny is that I’ve often been told that I’m a very nice person, and I like to think that I am, but here’s the catch, people don’t like to associate nice with honest.
…To the point. I often find that people who are honest (like myself), sometimes brutally, get called the “b-word” because others expect sugar coating. If I don’t like it, I’m going to say it. I admit, I have a hard time censoring myself. There was actually an incident last week where I got banned from some place because I decided to be a little “too honest” and the person didn’t like to hear about it. I really didn’t care because they were both out of line and completely hypocritical. I said my piece, and laughed after. What’s better? They changed what they were doing because I called them on it.
In my opinion, you are not a bitch just because you say it like it is. The others are just too weak to accept the truth. I agree that there are certain circumstances where you hold your tongue and keep things inside, for example, when you go to someones website and decide to critique them until you are blue in the face. Unless they ask you to lay it all on the line, you are most likely crossing it. In many cases, if someone doesn’t ask you then they really don’t care.
But in others, it’s necessary to speak up, and those are the times when I do. If I think your site sucks I’m not going to tell you because who am I too say? I’m not perfect. But, if I think you are acting like a racist idiot (like the case was last week), then I will call you on it, ban me if you like, but I’ll still say it and say it loudly.
However, in the end, I know this little ramble on the good, the bad, and the bitchy will do nothing for the word. So, I accept that and say if you want to call me a bitch fine, I like the word anyway.
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Madeline Albright said something interesting in her autobiography, it’s stuck with me ever since. It was something along the lines of “All my life, I’ve had to dumb myself down, to play the people-person game in order to get to where I am today”.
It’s kind of the way I have to live…though it may not seem ‘honest’, it’s easier for all involved. And hey, if it makes me SoS, then all the better!
Sometimes, people just can’t handle the truth. But I guess that’s no reason to lie.
I don’t see how you could be called a bitch, since I noticed that when you get “too honest”, as you put it, you usually have a point to make.
like your case, Bitch is a compliment.
i used to always sugarcoat my words or think twice before saying it so I wouldn’t hurt people too much.
But over the last few years I changed a lot and mainly grew more comfortable with myself and became the ‘old’ me (I am bullied in the past so therefor I always tried to act in a way so people would like me). I’m not mean, I’m generally a nice person but now when asked for an opinion I’ll give mine.
Also, I enjoy (civilized) discussions, it’s interesting to hear another person’s point of view, and maybe they have ideas that make you change your mind (even if it’s a little).
a pagebuilding site applied for affliating with me, so I commented her “I would like to affliate with you, but I think that a more professional site has a layout made on their own. Would you like me to help you make one with an easy program?” She accepted the offer, and now I’m working with her. I tried to be nice, but deliver my honest opinion, too. And anyone being racist? Psh. I would call them a bitch/bastard faster than they could even apologize. I think it depends on the situation that you’re in.
I hate it when people ask for opinion or reviews and when somebody is honest enought to tell them what they really think of it they get all pissed and start calling them bitches, or sons of bitches or any world related to an insult. This happens a lot in message boards, and it kills me, really. I mean, if you don’t want to hear the truth, WHY ASK FOR IT?!
I think people find a difference in honesty depending on why they’re getting it. Some people don’t like the blunt & brutal one and therefore get easily offended. But then there’s also how the honesty is presented to someone. No need to sugar coat, but find a “nicer” way to say it instead of using the rude honesty.
People are different and handle honesty in different ways. Some just can’t handle it.
I hate to hear people calling me bitch but I know my school mates backstabs me and calls me bitch all the time. lolz.. I hate saying it myself too. maybe I just whisper it to myself.. haha..
I don’t really find the word ‘bitch’ that offensive. There are so many more words that are much more offensive, I think. I’d rather be condemned for speaking my mind than anything else. As long as it’s truthful and not just plain rude then I don’t see a problem with it.
lot of girls are calling me bitch.. even my friends.. sometimes it’s not funny though..
I agree, I’d rather be called a bitch and be honest. Funnily enough I was called one for being honest recently, I was telling a mate how I felt on a matter and she got mad and now isn’t speaking to me. I’m glad I was honest though.